While browsing through the various newspapers yesterday, I came across the hue and cry over the suicide of Ram Singh, one of the accused in the grotesque Delhi case that has shaken the nation to the core, since the inception of this year.
Now there are various misgivings regrading what is considered as sexual harassment, rape. The substantive Indian law apparently states that: "sexual intercourse without consent." Being limited to only a non con-sensual sexual act does not do justice to the various other heinous ways of rape. The definition it seems is limited to merely violating the chastity of a woman, transgender or for that matter a man.
The question arises that what about penetration using other instruments, not limited to penile intervention? While there are many international citing on this, unfortunately the Indian penal code is yet to revise this.
So definitely a call is needed to not revise the law only, but also to broaden the mindset. Girls playing with dolls, doesn't mean they are just that. The achievement of a girl cannot be limited to catching a good groom! All her other skills cannot be disregarded, just because she's not the legally bonded temptress. And, she cannot be undermined for her intelligence. If you want something foolish to do the housework god's sake, use your purse to find a maid, and a whore to fulfill your fantasies!
Delving a bit deeper, the root cause of this perhaps lies in the early childhood. Girls always play with dolls! not so, there are a number of girls who prefer cars. I though loved my dolls, was equally happy to play with cars, trains etc - in short the so called "masculine" stuff!! Growing up, every girl does not automatically outgrow the doll to land in the fantasies of kitchen, or sewing. Carpentry and pottery is equally alluring. The modern family then focuses on education, but somehow the intensity weans as the girl steps into the college. She's just expected to cross over, even the obsession with Engineering and MBA degrees is limited to suitable groom hunting priority than actually using the grey cells. Then comes the mid-twenties, when if a girl has not settled for a boy (please read engaged, married or hooked up) her shortcomings are discussed amid much wailing in social circles. The fact that she's accomplishing new heights in her career somehow takes a back seat. The same principle is applied when hunting for the "prefect match" the groom's priority criteria is bank balance and his work, a girls fair and beautiful! Unfair to both parties!
Now there are various misgivings regrading what is considered as sexual harassment, rape. The substantive Indian law apparently states that: "sexual intercourse without consent." Being limited to only a non con-sensual sexual act does not do justice to the various other heinous ways of rape. The definition it seems is limited to merely violating the chastity of a woman, transgender or for that matter a man.
The question arises that what about penetration using other instruments, not limited to penile intervention? While there are many international citing on this, unfortunately the Indian penal code is yet to revise this.
So definitely a call is needed to not revise the law only, but also to broaden the mindset. Girls playing with dolls, doesn't mean they are just that. The achievement of a girl cannot be limited to catching a good groom! All her other skills cannot be disregarded, just because she's not the legally bonded temptress. And, she cannot be undermined for her intelligence. If you want something foolish to do the housework god's sake, use your purse to find a maid, and a whore to fulfill your fantasies!
Delving a bit deeper, the root cause of this perhaps lies in the early childhood. Girls always play with dolls! not so, there are a number of girls who prefer cars. I though loved my dolls, was equally happy to play with cars, trains etc - in short the so called "masculine" stuff!! Growing up, every girl does not automatically outgrow the doll to land in the fantasies of kitchen, or sewing. Carpentry and pottery is equally alluring. The modern family then focuses on education, but somehow the intensity weans as the girl steps into the college. She's just expected to cross over, even the obsession with Engineering and MBA degrees is limited to suitable groom hunting priority than actually using the grey cells. Then comes the mid-twenties, when if a girl has not settled for a boy (please read engaged, married or hooked up) her shortcomings are discussed amid much wailing in social circles. The fact that she's accomplishing new heights in her career somehow takes a back seat. The same principle is applied when hunting for the "prefect match" the groom's priority criteria is bank balance and his work, a girls fair and beautiful! Unfair to both parties!
